No Thank You!!

okay, more cynical posts from me. its been that kind of week.

i know, as a new parent, most people would welcome advice and help. i know i do appreciate good help and good advice. note that i said "good". to me, good means advice that is based on good, solid research, advice that makes sense, advice that can be clearly explained. not one that is plucked out from the sky.

i especially despise (benci tahap maksima ni) when people would offer "kata orang-orang tua" to me. i soooo would love to shove it down their throat. for example, orang tua said if your baby suck their toes, you'll be getting another baby. ok...which baby does not suck their toes? its one of the development stages, where a baby discovers his body parts. but do all mummies get pregnant again? what if the mother is a single mother,will she mysteriously get pregnant?

what about orang tua said if your baby sucks his thumb, then he's a good baby. again...also part of a baby's development. are they saying we have to be prepared our baby will end up a murderer if he doesnt suck his thumb?

and another is when orang tua said that a mummy loses her hair after pregnancy because her baby sprays or spits. for the third time, that is also part of development while losing hair is due to hormonal changes. how can a baby determine whether a woman loses her hair or otherwise? i've been losing hair since secondary school, but i had my first baby in my late 20s. maybe my hair fell in anticipation of my baby spraying.

i dont really push aside old folks tales and ignore them completely. those that makes sense i follow, like not to go out during maghrib (does that qualify as old folks tale though) but if you were to offer those tales to me, be sure to have a good explanation because, believe me, i will question and probe until i am satisfied with the reasoning behind that tale. you wouldnt want to answer me with "tak tau lah...orang tua kata". orang tua mana...meh, tunjuk sikit.

i also cant stand it when people tend to go overboard around a baby, as though the mother is not around. to me, that pure disrespectful. for instance, when a mother is changing her baby's nappies, more often than not a baby would cry. i really cant stand it when there are audiences offering comments like "oh...he's crying" or "why is he crying" or "quickly...cepat sikit" or best yet, "kesian dia..." well, maybe i should just leave the soiled nappy on him then if you kesian dia sangat. this is the reason why i always look for for a baby changing room that is meant for just 1 baby, and not one that is part of a large ladies room. you'd get all sorts of people coming up offering comments or advice. huh...he's crying?? oh, is that what you call it? thank god you told me, i dont know how i would have survived not knowing this is actually crying.

ah, get off my face!

or when i'm making formula for my sons, and some "good samaritan" coming up to ask me to "cepat lah...baby menangis tu". cepat, my ar*e lah. turn around before i stuff this bottle up your nose. what, do they think a bottle of milk will magically fall down from the sky when a baby starts to whimper?

a few days ago, as i was walking in a shopping mall (more of hypermarket, malls are cooler), i stopped for a bit to adjust a sleeping asyraf in his stroller. then all of the sudden, 2 k.g.s came up to us and asked "baby menangis ke?" i mean, what the...first of all, no he's not crying. secondly, if he cries, what are you going to do about it. and lastly, he's a baby for pete's sake, that's what he does! yes...that was exactly my answer to their stunned faces.

so anyway, to those who think they're doing me a favour by offering me all those "kata orang-orang tua" as though they will change my life and give me less sleepless nights, well...think again.

heh...i can be mean, cant i mock?